When Did Your Light Go Out
stop dimming your light
I recall feeling the first hints of my light dimming when I was just a child. My parents' choices instilled in me the belief that I wasn't good enough.
As the years passed, I found myself in relationships that only solidified this belief. Recently, I scrolling through my phone looking at old photographs of myself from before and after my divorce, and I couldn't help but notice the stark contrast. I appeared to be an entirely different person.
Looking back, I can see that my smile didn't quite reach my eyes in the pictures from before my divorce. It's as if my inner light struggled to shine through, no matter how hard I tried.
At that time, though, I was oblivious to it all. I was in an unhealthy marriage that made it difficult for me to see how I really felt. I lacked the language to express my inner turmoil, yet I knew that something felt off.
I recently shared on my podcast that my daughter's art teacher told me that I seemed much happier and even appeared ten years younger. The emotional pain I carried was reflected in my eyes and in the way I carried myself and people noticed.
I wasn't genuinely content with my life and I suffered silently.
My friend agreed with my daughter's teacher. She said, "You really do look younger, and your eyes aren't holding anxiety and stress anymore. They're now bright and filled with light."
Though I cherish my children, the weight of my marriage was stifling. Now, after two years of living independently and happily divorced, I can confidently say that my light has returned.
Now, I am regularly praised by both friends and strangers for the natural glow and light that radiates from within me. I find it truly empowering and satisfying to know that I no longer have to fake a smile, as genuine joy and positivity now shine through effortlessly.
What Causes Your Light to Dim
Unhealthy environments and people
Unprocessed and unhealed trauma/pain
Lack of knowing and loving yourself
Not being your authentic self, instead, you hide behind an invisible mask
Living a life that’s not your own
For over half of my life, I identified with a version of myself that was burdened and confined. However, having crossed over to the other side and discovered true freedom, I am motivated to inspire others to embark on their own healing journey.
I hope that everyone can experience the liberation to live life on their own terms, free from the constraints of past struggles.
I want to get to know my community a little better so I created a four-question survey that I would love for you to complete. To thank you for completing the survey, I’ll be hosting a free workshop on Tuesday, August 13th at 7 pm EST. to chat about how to live the life you want on your terms.
I Don’t Want To Be Married Anymore: Finding the Courage and Where to Start is an immersive book experience where I am sharing my story along with the lessons I’ve learned on my journey to freedom.
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Can you relate to your inner light dimming? If so, do you know when and why?
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Things Worth Sharing…
I encourage everyone to audit their friendships to make sure they’re surrounded by people who light them up inside
Kennedy Ryan is my new favorite author and I got a chance to ask her a question last month at the Columbus Book Festival. I just started reading The Long Shot and it’s juicy!!
Reminder, I am hosting a workshop, Tuesday, August 13th at 7p EST. I would love for you to join me. All I ask is that you take my 4-question survey. Thank you!
What I am Vibing To…
With love and light,
Siobhan
this is so inspiring! I'm definitely happy I found your writing
I'm so glad your light has returned, you deserve to shine!